In its first couple years, parenthood could become quite intense. Yet if everything goes well, the young parents are not presented with some extraordinary surprises. It’s all a matter of love, support and a few hundred diapers. The real deal begins with the first question that your child throws at you – what, how and more than anything, why? That’s the truly interesting chapter of parenthood. How will you answer your child’s constant questions and is there such a thing as a right or wrong answer?
WHO? WHAT? WHERE? WHEN? WHY?
Childrens’ questions know no borders. They could be either funny or serious but at all times innocent and authentic just like their insatiable curiosity. Whether they’re asking where their little brother came from or where did grandpa go, whether it’s why do seasons exist or where do elephants dwell, each question your child asks deserves patience and attention.
Sometimes parents get nervous or even scared by their child’s questions and they naturally choose to ignore them or procrastinate the answer. There is no formula on how to answer these questions but there are a few things you should keep in mind next time your child surprises you with a question.
- Age matters.
The answer you give your 5-year-old daughter should not be the same as the one you present to your 10-year-old son. Especially when it comes to sensitive topics such as death, sex, alcohol, even drugs. Be honest with your children but don’t overwhelm them with excessive information inappropriate and indigestible for their age.
2. The truth and nothing but the truth.
It’s not a good idea to learn to lie to your children. If they ask you where do babies come from and you give them the “storks” explanation, just a few years later you would have to explain why do you lie and is it good to lie. Don’t underestimate your children, they are smart enough to take the truth. Just give it to them in an easy and comprehensible form.
3. Don’t run away from questions.
Children love asking questions about literally everything. Yes, you may feel unprepared at certain times, but the worst thing you can do is ignore your child’s curiosity. Even if you don’t have an answer for each and every question posed, it’s best to sit down and discuss the topic with your son or daughter. Thus, you strengthen the parent-child bond and stimulate your children intellectually.
4. Don’t be afraid to not know.
You are a human being, not Wikipedia. Don’t be afraid that you may not be able to give the best and most appropriate answer to your child’s questions. What’s more important is that with each and every question and answer you invest in your relationship, you build trust and improve the communication between you and your children.
All parents love it when their child says something cute and bizarre that they can later share with family and friends. The art of listening is a skill that parents need to develop along with their children. Be patient listeners to your children’s monologues and always be ready to jump in with answers or more questions for them.
And if you want to add another fun way to spark your children’s imagination and find answers on many different topics, you can do it by downloading the educational app “Who Lit the Moon?” from Apple Store and Google Play.
What is the funniest question your kid asked you?